No More Random Sex!

It's not like I was hooking up every single night. But I have done it. Several times. I wasn't too crazy about it, but there are times that you just feel the urge to do it. It seems like your body needs it. And it is unthinkable that there will be one gay guy on this earth that is not into random sex. Or so i thought.

I wanted to get away for the weekend. So I made arrangements to see my friends in Poughkeepsie, somewhere in upstate New York. Its a 2-hour train ride from Manhattan. The trip was bearable, as I bought a book called "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Which is a very appropriate book for this trip. I may have to explain in my future blogs (-snicker-). After a weekend of food, drinking, straight college boys, friends and a frozen t-shirt contest (we won! yeah!), it was again time to go back to the city and back to reality. As I wait for the train, having fish and chips at Mahoney's, the statement from a genuinely nice person, struck me. He said, "I don't hook up. I am not into random sex." He continued on by saying that he might've done it once, but it was with someone he thought would be a prospect for a relationship.

Wow. It's not like he told me some secret formula to cure cancer or some revelation on how to solve world hunger. But it just dawned on me that it is possible for a young, attractive, smart, healthy gay man not to indulge in the worldly temptations of one-night-stands. I know, it sounds foolish. I bet there are others like him. But I was just very impressed. And it made me think about not having random sex anymore. Ever.

Again, its not like I do it on a regular basis. I am not being defensive. But I just wanted to clear this out. So, beginning today, July 2, 2007, I have decided not to hook up, have random sex, get into one-night-stands or any of those meaningless activities to satisfy one's libido. Of course, there is still porn and masturbation. But that would be a whole new post.